Showing posts with label evolution. Show all posts
Showing posts with label evolution. Show all posts
Thursday, July 11, 2013
Everyone Lies
by Lori Gebbie
People tell lies all the time. It’s part of the coping mechanism we have to get from one day to the next. We settle for things, and make due because we don’t want to cause waves or alarm people around us. But the fact is, those lies are the things that damage us the most.
A few years ago, Robert and I were in a discussion, and he told me those words that everyone hates to hear. “I have something to tell you, sit down for a minute.” I took a seat, and waited, patiently. I had complete trust and faith in him, he was my husband, and my best friend. He said he’d lied about some things, and they were weighing on him, and had been for a number of years. As he started unburdening his lies, his face started relaxing. Years started pouring off of his features. They weren’t huge lies, just “truths” he’d told himself so many times that he believed they were so. The real reasons why he had taken actions on things, instead of the “story” he’d told everyone else. Our relationship was solid, he tried so hard to be the better man this time around. But as he went back in his life, his teen years, down to his childhood years, he fell to his knees with the stripping, and he became that child.
When he describes it, it was like he was immediately transformed into light and love, and he saw all of creation around him. He saw the stars, he saw the reasoning for existence, he saw all of truth. Like a brick wall slamming into him, he had instant knowledge of life. He could feel the earth breathing beneath him, he could see the movement of natural flow. He could hear people miles away in their homes, living their lives. He could defy the natural laws and do things I cannot describe here. It was a very magical time, in the true sense of the word “magic”.
For me, it was a different story. I felt the swoop, felt the pull, yet I was still anchored to this reality. I was his lifeline to this reality, and yet, I didn’t want to be. I wanted to go with him “full fare” on this ride. I wanted to experience this with him, but knew it wasn’t possible. Yet, we were more connected than I’d ever felt, I felt as if half of me was here, while the other half was floating away with him. I still had to deal with this reality, our bills, our meals, our day-to-day. He crumbled, he could no longer speak, could not communicate in anything but gibberish. But I heard his mind, I felt his heart. I knew what was happening, and I was excited for both of us. We connected to each other in such a deep and spiritual level, I cried because I knew others had no clue to the beauty I felt. And it was beautiful. It still is. I closed my eyes and saw the Universe, the stars, the “full scope”. I was in his mind, he was inside mine. We were One.
But, being the reality-based mind, I had to see things from the outside perspective. And it was frightening. I could have taken him to see a doctor, but drugs and therapy were not going to help him. This was a spiritual ride he was on, and he needed to feel it the way it was hitting him. So I took care of my husband. We had cleared our schedule of anything pending, we were both working from home at the time, so it was real easy to cancel outside appointments and push off friends, claiming we were swamped and working. But that also meant I had no help, no one to call on for advice, no one to help take care of my 6’4” 200 lb child. And he was a child. He wanted to touch, to feel, to experience things. I had to rein him in, to keep him safe from outside, to make sure no one would interrupt the epiphany. To be honest, his personality shattered into four distinct entities. I was able to talk to all of them, and together, we put him back to one solid front. But it was a good three months for him to be stable enough to be in the company of others, and even then, it was only for short periods. He was solid for about 2 hours at a time, before he went off on wonderment.
Oh, that wonderment was amazing! We had deep discussions, understood life, and floated among the stars. We felt completely connected, even to the point of communicating telepathically. We felt nature, felt life, felt love. We understood science and math and religion in a whole way. A complete way. We are artists, and felt inspired by the experience. We wrote about the new knowledge we had, and shared the good with as many as we could. We came up with our theory of Self Perpetuation Evolution, and live those rules. And it’s made us better people. We stay true to ourselves, first, then others. We see a more complete picture, because we don’t allow those lies to taint our views. And we are happy.
A lot of people criticize me for being harsh. And they call us “hard”. But the reality is, we’re good friends. To those who live responsibly, who take action, who want to grow and move forward, we are fully supportive. But if you are playing around, running a game, being deceitful, we’re harsh and swift. I do not apologize for this, whining is not allowed. Most see us as strange, odd, even a little scary. But that’s because they have so many lies wrapped into their lives, they only feel comfortable with like-minded people. We offer a mirror to look into. If you don’t like what you see, change it.
We would like to be extremely successful. We would like to have more freedom than we do. But not at the expense of our truth. Because we are happy, we can sleep at night. And we know the people around us are true and honorable.
I don’t share this for others to feel sorry for us, there is nothing to feel sorry for. This was a magical time, a time of light and love, truth and harmony. To be honest, we both want that time back, because it was so incredible. But it changed us. We no longer lie, not even the small ones to make others feel better. If something doesn’t sit with us, we discuss it. If we see someone wrong, we cut them from us. There is too much beauty in this life to surround ourselves with people who just don’t “get it”. We don’t maintain toxic relationships. You have to be true, responsible, and gracious for what you have. Material gain is not important if you compromise yourself. It’s just not worth that.
I don’t suggest others try to get to the point we hit, I don’t even know how to get back there ourselves. But we know living with pure hearts, we’ll get there eventually. And we understand our future, what we are going toward. What we have to look forward to after this life. And it’s exciting!
Friday, April 8, 2011
Squidoo Articles 4/8/2011
This is a complete list of our articles on squidoo as of 4/8/2011
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We are Stock photographers, and were looking for other ways to expand and grow our small little company, when we found a merchandising site called Zazzle. So Robert decided to give it a try. But I was so bogged down with stock and sales that I didn't have time to really look into it. He put up a ...
Internet - Fri, 08 Apr 2011 18:03:47
Flowers are nature's way of smiling at the world. From their colorful blooms to their fragrant odors they have inspired the imagination of artists to paint, sculpt, photograph and write about them the world over. Few things have motivated the creative soul as often as these natural wonders. Growi...
Internet - Fri, 08 Apr 2011 10:36:38
3. Abstract Art Prints, Cards and Postcards News!
Balanced on the edge between order and insanity, free as a bird or restrained like a prisoner. The vision and expression of an artist's soul displayed for the world to view. What manner of torture or spark of genius must be at the core of the creative mind? Restricted by mortal limitations yet fr...
Internet - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:09:01
4. Fractal Art Posters and Prints News!
Fractals have become very popular in recent years as a form of artistic expression. While these geometric shapes and repeating patterns are common in nature, it is the computer generated creations which are most commonly thought of. It may be true that fractals are composed of complicated mathema...
Internet - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:04:44
How often do people talk about the things they want out of life, but do very little in regards to fulfilling them? Wishes and dreams are wondrous things. The Human mind can create worlds of fantasy, take us on trips to locations we have never been, or develop the next greatest time-saving device....
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 20:41:46
6. RGebbiePhotos Zazzle Gallery News!
Zazzle is a print on demand store front online where artists and designers can promote their creations as images on fun and exciting consumer products. Zazzle enables individuals, professional artists, and major brands to create and offer billions of unique items for customers worldwide. Owned a...
Internet - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:06:01
7. How will you Leave Your Mark? News!
We spend our lives with too much self involvement, getting mired in the small details without ever viewing the larger great works being created right in front of us. When a person drops the veils and misconceptions that have been presented as a reality, and allow themselves to accept the things t...
Education - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 21:00:49
It seems pretty obvious to me that this world, our world, is in serious trouble. What I remember of history, being of deep personal interest to me, I don't believe there has ever been a time in our human existence when the entire planet has been in such a stage of fear, conflict and confusion. Re...
Culture & Society - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 20:48:45
9. Epiphany and Self-Evolution News!
Many people have experienced a moment of epiphany in their lifetime, an instant when they have an understanding or realization that seems so profound, it takes their breath away. In those few moments a person can feel like they just touched the edge of everything that is known. Maybe they took a ...
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 21:13:27
10. Photographing the Essence of Woman News!
Through my years in the business, I have had the pleasure of photographing thousands of people, and most of them have been women. And there is one truth, which is universal amongst them. Women want to look beautiful in their photos. Whether it's for Corporate Identity, Fashion, Family Portrait, o...
Arts & Design - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 21:36:27
11. Spreading the Love, Celebrating the Heart
Hearts are the universal symbol of love. From sketching hearts on our note books in school, to giving a big box of chocolates to a loved one on Valentine's Day, this representation of the soul will always be the number one way to express affection. So let us celebrate this iconic form in all its ...
Internet - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 21:21:49
Most people dream of a life filled with happiness and success, but the reality is few truly end up having the life they want to lead. Even when someone finds fulfillment in one aspect of their world, they will often find disappointment in many others. The journey from birth to death is often a st...
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:29:45
13. How to Photograph Women Close Up
Photography can convey a message, thought or emotion, and leave a long lasting impression on the viewer. A close up or tightly cropped scene is one way in which a photographer can create a mood and relay a concept. This is especially true when photographing women, and the artist wishes to use a ...
Arts & Design - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 21:25:38
14. Self Perpetuating Evolution
Evolution is commonly described as a process of continuous change from a lower to a higher state. In human evolution it is often the genetic stages of change that are commonly thought of, such as the physical development from primitive to modern man. Perhaps our spiritual and intellectual evoluti...
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 23:45:10
15. Taking the First Steps News!
Often the first few steps in personal progress can be the hardest. It is never easy to step from the safety you know into a rush of unknown possibilities. The security and comfort that keep our inner selves safe can also be the one thing holding us back from greater potential just beyond the next...
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 20:52:27
16. The Best Camera I Ever Owned News!
When I was three my parents gave me a Vintage, Fisher Price Toy, Picture Story Camera, No. 784 for Christmas. It had a big plastic rotating cube on the top and a fogged up clear plastic view screen. With a large orange shutter button that made a clicking sound when you pressed it. That was the be...
Arts & Design - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 21:51:19
17. Fremont Street Experiences News!
Robert and I were asked to help out a friend with her business. She runs a "spotter" company, watching a parking lot and having vehicles towed that park there without permits. It was an interesting experience, sitting in that cold parking lot throughout the night, watching the neon burn until mor...
Culture & Society - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 21:58:33
18. The One Thing
There is one thing every person in the world can do to enrich their lives. Young or old, rich or poor, large and small, from every country, view or ethnic background; we can all work on who we are as individuals. Every person can benefit from taking time to improve upon who they are.
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:46:45
19. A Road Less Traveled News!
There are times when the road less traveled can be the quickest path to reaching your goals. In our personal and professional lives the common path can often appear the safe and steady route to our desires. While the process may be tried and true the road is mired with overwhelming numbers where ...
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:14:06
20. Another Night on Fremont Street News!
The night scene here on Fremont is becoming strangely familiar. The people change, but the situations remain pretty consistent. Across the street, in the darkened doorway of an abandoned storefront, a couple has an argument. He stands there, almost bored, with his hands in his pockets as she ple...
Culture & Society - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 21:54:31
21. How to Persevere Obstacles
Personally and professionally, most people encounter obstacles in their paths to growth and success. There are times when the size and number of roadblocks can overshadow your vision, making goals and projects seem insurmountable. Writing down the steps you need to take to reach your goal will gi...
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 23:09:27
The greatest treasure mankind has to offer cannot be purchased with silver or gold, but must be earned through the experiences in life's journey. More valuable than the world's most prized piece of art is the knowledge and wisdom humanity has gained in our short existence on this planet. With a f...
Healthy Living - Thu, 07 Apr 2011 01:48:04
23. How to Make Your Vision a Reality News!
There has always been a lot to be said for the power of positive thinking. When we believe in ourselves and have passion for the things we do, visions can become accomplishments. Making your dreams come true can be as simple as following the inspiration in your heart. With strong drive and persev...
Education - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:24:02
24. Focus on Your Future News!
Every process, including life, has three stages; a beginning, a middle, and an ending. Relative to the journey of life, these steps might represent our past, present and future. Yesterday is behind us, today is here, but tomorrow presents endless possibilities. These possibilities are laid out be...
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:39:31
25. I Creator; The Great Expression News!
The world is filled with pictures and images, visual media as advertisements, art and dialog saturate every aspect of our lives. From expressing an emotion to reminding us to turn off the lights when we leave the room, photographs, designs, graphics and text can be found on almost everything in o...
Arts & Design - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:35:52
26. How To Stay Strong in the Face of Failure News!
Many people have had moments when they feel as if life, the world, and almost everything around them move forward, while they themselves, hard as they may try, stand still. More than once I have seen a project stalled, delayed or abandoned because the effort given did not justify the results. Har...
Healthy Living - Thu, 07 Apr 2011 03:57:32
27. Evaluation and Adaptation News!
Species or society, business or individual, the same principal stands true; you must evolve if you want to continue to exist. Change in a comfortable and familiar routine can be very difficult, and considerably more so when those changes are in a person's inner self. The drive to learn, to evolve...
Healthy Living - Thu, 07 Apr 2011 03:59:37
28. On Growing up News!
As an observer of human nature, I have noticed how often people look for reasons beyond themselves for the troubles in their lives. They make excuses and cast blame at others when things go wrong. Even the people we once looked to as examples in the professional and political environment appear t...
Healthy Living - Thu, 07 Apr 2011 03:45:15
29. Brush and Canvas to Drag and Drop
Once upon a time, before the age of Photoshop and Illustrator, photographs were taken on film and developed in a darkroom, designs drawn on a sketch pad and the whole mess came together taped to some editors art board. There is and always will be a conflict between tradition and innovation. I can...
Arts & Design - Thu, 07 Apr 2011 03:55:33
We are the result of our experiences both good and bad. There are numerous factors that create the people we become in life. Some of these events we have direct influence on or control over, while others are a matter of timing and fate. Everyone, each person in this world, has an individual persp...
Healthy Living - Thu, 07 Apr 2011 04:09:53
31. Slaying the Dragons Within
Everyone has battles they fight in their everyday life, family and job stresses just to start, but what of the wars that rage within one's own self. The ever weighing scale between the things we know are right and the deeds we have done that are wrong. Even a young child knows when they act in a ...
Healthy Living - Thu, 07 Apr 2011 03:55:32
32. Climbing Your Inner Walls News!
Most people have experiences that cause them to create barriers between their inner self and the outside. Some of these walls are necessary they protect us from the world and ourselves, other walls stall or even stop us in our own personal growth. I have built and dismantled more than a few of t...
Healthy Living - Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:51:48
33. The Creation of Man: How to Legally Shoot your Husband News!
We needed more models. We had our friends in front of the camera, and they were good for commercial images, but we needed something more. We had a sense that we were headed into something special, but we weren't quite sure what it was going to be. I decided to put Robert in front of the camera. ...
Arts & Design - Fri, 08 Apr 2011 00:31:57
34. The Greatest Adventure News!
When every day you live becomes your greatest adventure life is an experience you are anxious to greet. While the concept is simple, the task can be overwhelming to accomplish. Maintaining hope and optimism from one day to the next can be a daunting chore in itself. It is always easier to have fa...
Healthy Living - Thu, 07 Apr 2011 04:11:58
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